| Author | Message | ||
     Chasespeed |
Well, for those that DONT know, I have been going through a REALLY ugly, nasty, divorce and custody battle... The final day in Court was the 26th... Here is the outcome... Chase Custody Sole Managing Conservatorship (Sole Custody) Property.. 99 Rodeo 00 Rodeo(now for sale) 99 X1 All household items, etc.. Her.... Only what she has currently in her possesion. Visitation upon mutal agreement, and, failing that, every 1st, 3rd, and 5th Saturday, from 10 am to 2 pm @ QL&L Visitation Center I waived the Child Support But, she is ordered to cover the medical stuff, etc... All she has left, are her Parental Rights(and those only barely)... Outcome, I am a Happily Divorced Single Father, on active duty... I have ALOT of money to find, and fast.. I still owe my lawyer a small fortune... Have past bills in collections(from the hooker), etc.. The nice truck is for sale, hopefully it sells fast enough, that I can recover smoothly.... But, I might have to sell the bike as well... Oh well, I still won... and above all else, I can ensure my daughters safety AT ALL TIMES... and try to do the best I can raising her... Chase | ||
| Jerzydevil |
Congrats and good luck!!! | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
You may want to post your attorney's name and number.  I hope to NEVER have to go through a divorce! Glad your outcome was positive. | ||
| Court |
>>>Glad your outcome was positive. The outcome of divorce is never "positive", just over. | ||
| Dfishman |
Court.......Mine was! Positive that is. Chasespeed.Glad the outcome was in your favor. | ||
| Jpb |
Congrats Chasespeed...I just did the divorce thing 1.5 yrs ago myself...no kids but it is no easy thing to go through. You've made it...as deep as the pit looks now for 'catching up'...it will be a much easier climb out of that than hell you've been in the middle of. Best of luck to you and your daughter!!! | ||
| Buellfighter |
Glad to hear the outcome was in your favor! | ||
| Nevrenuf |
glad to hear that you survived through the ordeal. it's never an easy thing. out of 7 kids, two of us are still married to the same person and at one time by a thread. when one buddy told me about his divorce when he still lived in texas, he said "not only was i divorcing my wife, but i was divorcing every woman that she worked with too". he ended up with custody of his kids also. good luck and god bless you and your daughter. | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
I'm with Court on this one. The best you can get is closure. All the best to you for the future Chase. | ||
| Ulywife |
Chase - best of luck to you and your daughter on the next chapter of your lives. Close the door on the past and move forward. | ||
| Slaughter |
She's right - the direction now is forward. Best of luck. Keep your standards and expectations high. | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Divorce sucks, but I would say his outcome was "positive". My buddy's psycho ex-wife got everything including primary custody. Now she exacts additional "settlements" when he wants to see his kids. Sometimes when it's over, it ain't really over. | ||
| Mikej |
If he keeps a record of these additional "settlements" then he can present them for later "adjustments" when it comes time to renegotiate payment and support levels. | ||
| Wile_ecoyote |
Chase, good luck and its not easy but when it does get tough look to you child. They are godsends. | ||
| Elf |
Congratulations, Chase! It sounds like you've got a good attorney there. One that is actually worth the sheepskin that their name is printed on! And, when looking at the debt, just remember what the late, great Henny Youngman always said, "Know why divorces cost so much? They're WORTH it!!"  | ||
| Chasespeed |
Thanks all, though, I do have to disagree with some sentiments... It wasnt made public info, do to liable, and pending court action, etc... BUT, she has a MAJOR chemical dependency, one, that actually led to SERIOUS problems with my job, namely suspension of my clearance... She had 2 abortions while I was "in Hell" over the last couple years, was being investigated by the State for neglect, among other things... She has been tested, and, EVERY TIME popped for cocaine...13 tests since April of last year... And I wasnt only divorcing her, it was her Mother... So, it was a positive outcome, because, now, not only is my daughter safe, but, I can work on hopefully salvaging my career. Chase | ||
| Ironken |
Chase, I went thru one 8 years ago. Same kinda crap. Had to file 'ruptcy....blah...blah! It took a couple of years to get back to level, but, very worth it. Stay strong bro! I have since re-married and had a second daughter. It is great! (usually). I have no doubt that with time you will salvage and re-build stronger than ever. BTW....+1 for father's rights...you won! Not as common as it should be, but, getting better.....Kenny | ||
| Bcordb3 |
Chase, It is good to hear that you won. Unfortunately it is never over when there is children involved. Stay strong, I hope and pray that you have a strong support group around you (your family) God Bless you and your child. | ||
| Chasespeed |
Stay strong, I hope and pray that you have a strong support group around you (your family) That is kinda lacking around here... my family is in New England, and I am stuck in Texas... But, I have had a lot of help regardless... Thanks all... Chase} | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
You need a chat, (I did it about 14 yrs back) , or just an un-biased ear to bend, give me a shout, I've got a unlimited phone deal, I'll call you right back. Just try & remember the 7hr time difference or my current wife will skin you!  | ||
| Brinnutz |
Well chase, I didn't know you were in the Navy. Glad to hear you got what is best for you, and your daughter! <-US Navy here..well, Reserves for now. AM3. rock on brotha. | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
If he keeps a record of these additional "settlements" then he can present them for later "adjustments" when it comes time to renegotiate payment and support levels. Would if they were only monetary "settlements". Sometimes it's just the hassle of trying to get with his kids. Sometimes it's other stuff. She simply enjoyed torturing him any way she could. Because he wanted to see his kids, he had to just take it. | ||
| Oldog |
Good to hear this Chase, sounds like you won from where I sit, enjoy your new life with your daughter | ||
| Percyco |
Congrats! I went threw the same thing just a few years ago. Took her to the cleaners and have custody of my daughter. Things will straighten out for you in a couple of years . Best of Luck ! P | ||
| Nevrenuf |
was a machinist mate back in the 70's. wish i had the foresight to have stayed in, but i didn't and my hat's off to you cause i know what it's like seeing what i saw when the ship's went out. everything you do now is for your daughter. | ||
| Jlnance |
Divorce sucks, even when it isn't ugly. I can't imagine trying to stay sane through a difficult one. Congrats on getting it done with. | ||
| Chasespeed |
Thanks all... well, there is some bad news this week.... Coil on the bike gave up... Someone might have a line on one for now... Chase | ||
| Buellinachinashop |
Divorce is the reason I never got married. The odds are 50% that a marriage isn't going to make it. Those aren't good enough for me. Yes, you can make you're own odds, but 1/2 of the relationship may not want to. I hope everything works out the best for you. | ||
| Cataract2 |
Reason why I'm not married, yet. I'm going to make certain she is the right one before marrying her. I give a min. of 2 years together before marriage. Hoping to lower the odds of it going bad. | ||
| Metalstorm |
Here's to a long, smooth, beautifully scenic road for you and your daughter  I feel bad for your ex. Not for the divorce but for whatever led her be in the state she's in. But I'm very happy for you and your daughter. She shouldn't have to be exposed to or influenced by the Mom's problems. Ya did good (Message edited by metalstorm on September 29, 2007) | ||
| Nevrenuf |
no reason as to why a m2 coil shouldn't work on a x1 is there. although your fuel injected and i'm carborated. if not i got one that you can have. (Message edited by nevrenuf on September 29, 2007) | ||
| Chasespeed |
been looking into it... The coil needs to come off a S3 or X1... Connectors are different, ECM actually controls the dwell and timing.. No worries, I am bidding on the one on eBay.. Thanks all, it wasnt easy, but, as stated, its the best thing for my daughter... I just wish her mother would have accepted the help she was offered... but, you only help those want to be helped.. Chase | ||
| Greenagain |
Congrats. Having gone through my own ugly divorce I know how it feels. How'd you get full custody? Is your Ex a drug-crazed freak? Don't sweat your lawyer bill, they're accustomed to waiting for $. | ||
| Chasespeed |
How'd you get full custody? Is your Ex a drug-crazed freak? Pretty much hit the nail on the head, coke, in any form, snort, smoke, inject, doesn't matter.. But, according to the judge, that just sealed the deal... She has no job, refuses to get one, no place to live, etc etc etc etc.. When the state offered to help her get on her feet, she told them to go to hell, etc etc etc.. She is crazy... no worries though.. And the lawyer bill... yeah, well, I have alot of financial stuff to clean up, and it cant wait.. I am active duty, and, owing money isnt cool(i am not talking about loans).. I have 60-90 after the divorce was done to clean my financial mess up... lets hope my truck sells fast... Chase} |
