| Author | Message | ||
     Nm5150 |
If I get my son an iphone on my account is there a way I can remotely access it to make sure he is not sexting or something while I am on the road ? | ||
| Gschuette |
Your kid is always going to be about 10 steps ahead of you with regards to technology. You won't be able to keep up. | ||
| Sifo |
Short answer, with the right phone and plan, yes. I have a friend who does that with her daughter. She has even created a short cut to lock her phone remotely. I would check with your salesperson to make sure you get what you need. From there, see what Gschuette said. | ||
| Nm5150 |
Roger that  | ||
| Johnnylunchbox |
There is an app that will send you everything they send. I'll be damned if I can remember the name of it right now. | ||
| Gentleman_jon |
Here are a couple of app.s that seem to do what you want. Haven't tried them myself, but they look like they work. Mobilstealth: http://www.mobistealth.com/iphone-spy Teensafe: https://cp.teensafe.com/?sid=1002&cid=16&aff_sub=1 02b3a32b5640e00385d3e1fb71efb MyMobileWatchdog: http://www.mymobilewatchdog.com/ Mobile Spy: http://www.mobile-spy.com/ I must say that I entirely disagree with Gshuette that it is impossible to stay ahead of your kids. But then, I don't have any!  | ||
| Fahren |
The best deterrent is building trust and communication into your relationship with your son or daughter, and helping them to learn that even with app's like Snapchat out there purporting to erase your messages seconds after they are read, the internet is Forever. Teens can be pretty aware and savvy about protecting themselves, once they learn about how bad the consequences can be. | ||
| Just_ziptab |
No phone, no worries.  | ||
| Nillaice |
No phone, no worries Riiiiiight. Cuz not having a phone made it impossible for me to do wrong | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
If you intend to go the spy app route, be up-front about it, explain that yes you can have your iphone but the conditions are these... If you don't, when they find the app (& they will, I'm with Gshuette on this) you'll lose all trust & control. The other thing to take into consideration is the effect on your childs school & home life. We've considered a smartphone for our 14yr old, but we know he'll have it glued to his hand & his school work will suffer & he'll be even more of a grunting teenager than he is already. It's an absolute minefield all this, I know. You want your kids to fit in & the pressure to buy the latest whatsit that everybody else has is enormous, but you may well be doing them a disservice by doing so. It's very tricky to judge. Who'd have kids eh? If only I'd known... but wait a minute, I DID know, I was one once! Ah selective memory kicks in again. | ||
| Britchri10 |
My 14 y/o has an android phone. We don't monitor his usage electronically. What we do do is talk to him and make him aware of what can go wrong (consequences) if he abuses our trust. It is a minefield but I want my son to learn to do what's right because it's the right thing to do. I am sure he will have lapses but I am hardly one to criticize these. (I remember what I was like @ 14) It is a minefield but his mother and me believe that through showing trust in him he will not abuse our trust. We have caught him in lies in the past, especially about homework and he has suffered the consequences we imposed and hopefully learned from the experience. We believe that open and honest discussion and communication is the best weapon to employ when dealing with his electronic gadget usage. (YMMV) Chris C | ||
| Teeps |
Why does he need an iPhone? A prepaid flip phone is all that is needed to keep in touch... just say'n. | ||
| Pwnzor |
Our 17 year old has actually been told by one of her teachers to "Google it" when nobody could answer a question. | ||
| Mr_grumpy |
(I remember what I was like @ 14) You'n'me both Chris, I daren't tell him, but I was worse than him at that age. | ||
| Drkside79 |
Spying on your kid isn't gonna build any trust. Plus no need for them to sext. They have skype, facetime, and 100 other sites you can't trace. Not to mention any kid with a computer can send texts from a different #. Just sayin | ||
| Airbozo |
While I personally don't think kids should have phones, if you do buy them one, please sit down and discuss what is and isn't acceptable. Then again most adults don't even know this... At least let them know to turn it off during school time. This will save you a trip to school to get their phone back. | ||
| Pwnzor |
My 10 year old girl has her own phone. No data. Text and phone only, no voicemail. We have control over the actual phone numbers that can call it, and also the numbers she can call from it. |
