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Fb1
| Posted on Saturday, November 02, 2013 - 09:54 pm: |
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I recently stumbled across blogger Matt Walsh. This is as good as it gets:
quote:"Dear Daughter, You’re Beautiful, Regardless of What the Media Tells You" http://themattwalshblog.com/2013/11/02/dear-daught er-youre-beautiful-regardless-of-what-the-media-te lls-you/
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Mr_grumpy
| Posted on Sunday, November 03, 2013 - 04:36 am: |
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Man, that's terrific, thanks so much for sharing it. |
Xdigitalx
| Posted on Sunday, November 03, 2013 - 09:00 am: |
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But, isn't that another form of art? Reminds me of when I was a kid,.. I used want to be just like the hero characters in comic books. The front cover is what drew me in to pick it up and buy it. |
Xdigitalx
| Posted on Sunday, November 03, 2013 - 01:22 pm: |
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Sorry for jumping in ... don't mean to take away from it, especially somewhere.. where I have minimal experience (raising a daughter) I do have a niece.. she wanted to be a marine so she did, she has very thick skin, I never saw the things described in that blog personally. |
Rick_a
| Posted on Sunday, November 03, 2013 - 06:09 pm: |
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A kids peers, especially in the teen years, has the potential of being a more destructive force than anything the media can dish out. Growing up, the discovery of most of the prettiest girls being the most self conscious and insecure made me sad, and made them that much less attractive. |
Fb1
| Posted on Monday, November 04, 2013 - 08:52 am: |
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Man, that's terrific, thanks so much for sharing it. Grumps, you're welcome. Powerful stuff. But, isn't that another form of art?...Sorry for jumping in ... don't mean to take away from it... No worries at all. Not sure I understand your "isn't that another form of art" angle - ?? A kids peers, especially in the teen years, has the potential of being a more destructive force than anything the media can dish out. Rick, yeah, I think I'd be inclined to agree with you on that. I raised a son and a daughter (they're both in their late 20's now), and I remember well the effort their mom and I put into trying to guide them and oftentimes "shield" them from influences we didn't agree with, yet still allowing them to see and touch and experience and learn and grow and mature along the way. It's a balancing act, to be sure, and I remember the target ALWAYS moving - just about the time I thought I had being a parent all figured out, my kids would figuratively sprint away again, continuing their process of "growing up." Their mom and I must have done something right amongst the many mistakes we made - both of our children blossomed into beautiful, honest, hard-working young adults, now both with families of their own. Best of all, my kids are still my best friends, and I believe the same holds true in reverse. Matt Walsh's piece really resonated with me. It was, at its core, simply a very well-written and poignant way of saying "I love you" to one of his best friends. |
Xdigitalx
| Posted on Monday, November 04, 2013 - 09:07 am: |
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Well... your right, its just an angle. Everything in that video is art, including the video itself. Isn't it? |
Fb1
| Posted on Monday, November 04, 2013 - 09:25 am: |
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Everything in that video is art, including the video itself. Isn't it? Concur. |
Fahren
| Posted on Tuesday, November 05, 2013 - 12:11 am: |
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What video? Did I miss something? |
Fb1
| Posted on Tuesday, November 05, 2013 - 07:26 am: |
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It's hot-linked in the beginning of Walsh's piece. |
Trevd
| Posted on Tuesday, November 05, 2013 - 09:16 pm: |
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That's great... I worry almost everyday how my 7 year old daughter is going to manage with all the crap out there. Thanks for sharing. |
Fb1
| Posted on Tuesday, November 05, 2013 - 09:34 pm: |
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That's great... I worry almost everyday how my 7 year old daughter is going to manage with all the crap out there. Always be her very best friend. Thanks for sharing. You're welcome. |
Aesquire
| Posted on Tuesday, November 05, 2013 - 09:53 pm: |
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Also, teach her to shoot, to do some "not for little girls" sport, and kick ass. ( like flying, motorcycle riding, Luge, Fencing, Tai Chi, whatever YOUR risk sport is. ) Thanks, that is inspirational. |
Daddio
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 04:27 pm: |
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I raised two girls and a son, they have all turned out to be independent, happy adults. Don't try to be their friend, just be their Dad (or Mom.) And do as Aesquire said above, but include wrenching, as this is a good exercise in problem solving. Somewhere I have a photo of my oldest daughter 'helping' me work on my Chevy 4x4 truck, sitting on the inner fender with the hood up, at about 3 years old... thanks for the link, Fb1, made my eye leak a little. |
Macbuell
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 04:43 pm: |
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Being a friend is great but don't forget to be a parent. Kids need consistent rules, direction and leadership. Blog is blocked at work. I'll check it out later. |
Mr_grumpy
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 04:49 pm: |
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My 14yr old lad has absolutely no mechanical interest at all. My 22yr student nurse daughter however was pottering about the scrapyards with me as soon as she could walk. |
Fb1
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 04:49 pm: |
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thanks for the link, Fb1, made my eye leak a little. You're welcome. Mine, too. Being a friend is great but don't forget to be a parent. I assumed that was a given in my "best friend" comment in an earlier post. It'd be impossible, IMO, to be a good friend to your child if you weren't concurrently doing a good job as their parent. |
Macbuell
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 05:43 pm: |
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It'd be impossible, IMO, to be a good friend to your child if you weren't concurrently doing a good job as their parent. You would think. My wife worked as a school counselor for elementary kids prior to our son being born. She told me this story about this one kid. He was acting out in class and drawing very violent pictures of people being shot, stabbed, etc. I think the kid was in the 2nd grade. This all disturbed the teachers and the counselors so they set up a parent teacher conference to talk about it. The father was playing Grand Theft Auto and a number of other highly violent video games with his son and despite the evidence of it's impact on his child's development, refused to stop playing the video games with his son. At the end of the meeting he said, "he's my buddy and we like to play these video games together and we're not going to stop playing them". |
Fb1
| Posted on Thursday, November 07, 2013 - 05:54 pm: |
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And thus, in my opinion, and likely yours, the boy's father was NOT being his son's best friend. The father WAS, however, being a selfish, clueless [redacted], and, in the process, is perpetuating his kind. Sad. |
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