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Thumper74
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 12:12 am: |
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Shortly after my neice's second birthday and before my 30th, I lost my Dad. He was literally at the WV Buell Rally three weeks ago. BSing with my brother in law three minutes before he passed. I have no idea what to say other than being extremely grateful for the time we've had together, but at 65, it was still too young |
Sifo
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 12:24 am: |
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Very sorry for your loss. That is way too young. I lost my dad at 63. You just expect there to be more years to enjoy. Cherish the years you had though. |
Drkside79
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 01:04 am: |
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I'm sorry thumper I lost mine two years ago at 31. It's too young and my daughter as well was too young to remember. I feel your pain and am so sorry. |
Satori
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 01:04 am: |
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Thumper, I am sorry for your loss. Ironically I wrote this earlier today. This too shall pass No matter what you are experiencing right now, whether good or bad, painful or pleasurable, it will pass. One thing that I’ve noticed over time is that most people are always running from their moments, no matter if they were positive or negative, they are doing their best to escape to either future or the past. So stop that. When you realize that this (whatever this moment is for you) will pass, it may help you appreciate the moment. If you like this moment, dwell on it, absorb it, burn it into your mind because it will soon be gone. If you don’t like the moment, relax, as it will soon be gone. Satori |
Thumper74
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 01:34 am: |
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I'm grateful for the WV Buell Rally. Dad grew up near there. We spent one day of the rally visiting Glenville, Sutton, etc. I really, extremely grateful for the rally and the time we got to spend together that weekend. I'm just not looking forward to that weekend next year. If that makes sense. |
Thumper74
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 01:46 am: |
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In honor of him, I'll ride the shit out of his Sportster and paint it cherry red, like he had planned. |
Rick_a
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 07:41 am: |
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My dad passed at 63. We didn't spend enough time together. I'm just glad that he was proud and happy for me at the time, and passed quickly. My mother was not so lucky. My condolences. I was the "favorite" until my baby sister was born. I was just fine with that. I wasn't there when either passed. It's probably fortunate as that'd be a bit traumatic for my gentle soul. My dad taught me all my major lessons in life, bluntly, clearly, and concisely. Granted I chose to learn for myself at times, but sometime you've gotta admit that your parents may just know what's best for you. My sister has dug up some articles on his career in the Navy and some patents. He had done a lot in his lifetime...and worked way too much... |
Hughlysses
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 07:50 am: |
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Very sorry to hear it James. |
Wolfridgerider
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 08:00 am: |
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Hate to hear this..... I'm sorry for your loss... I'm glad you and your father were able to make the trip to WV. I hope it will be a good memory for you. |
Oldog
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 08:33 am: |
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Sorry to hear this, My condolences on your loss, remember the good times |
Mr_grumpy
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 08:39 am: |
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I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Just been over to England to see my old Dad, he's in his mid '80s & isn't half the man he was nor the witty fun fellow I used to know. Every time I visit I realise that it may be the last time I see him. Mum died in a car accident nearly 14 years ago, & my big Sis & I were talking about this just this weekend. We both agree that it's better to lose a parent in a quick way even though it hurts more initially, than to watch them slowly fading away in decrepitude. Your Dad will always be "That Guy" in your memories, cherish that & let it support you. |
Daves
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 09:56 am: |
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My condolences to you and your family. |
Macbuell
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 10:09 am: |
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Ouch. I'm so sorry, man. You have my thoughts and prayers. |
86129squids
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 10:57 am: |
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Wow, Thump- hate to hear of this. It'll be a wild ride until at least a week after the services, plus the ordeal of figuring out all the "thus and so's" involved in the estate. I lost my dad WAY too early at 56, when I was only 20 years old. Mom's been gone almost 5 years now, and the time seems to just have evaporated. Hang on, and hang in there. Not much about it will be pleasant, but there WILL be good things to come. Grace happens. Again, so sorry to hear of this. Gather your family and friends close, they're your greatest asset now. |
Two_seasons
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 05:38 pm: |
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All that passes leaves memories. Enjoy them. Take in this time Thump and know we understand your pain. God bless you and your loved ones. |
Paint_shaker
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 06:17 pm: |
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Cherish the memories. May he RIP. |
Brumbear
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 06:57 pm: |
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Sorry Bro I really am |
Fran_dog
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 08:30 pm: |
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I'm sorry for the loss of your father, and my prayers are with you and your family. Hang in there. RIP |
Bluzm2
| Posted on Tuesday, September 24, 2013 - 09:23 pm: |
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James, Not much more I can add to the above. Loosing a parent is so very hard. It does get better with time. I really like your your idea, ride that cherry red sportster hard but not dumb. Go slow enough to enjoy the ride and scenery but fast enough to keep things interesting. Do it with a friend, family member or companion. Or do it alone and talk to Dad, he'll hear you.. Brad |
Littlebuggles
| Posted on Wednesday, September 25, 2013 - 02:41 am: |
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Heartfelt condolences Thumper, very sorry for your loss. Good plan on the Sporty, ride it like you mean it, but not like you aim to see him tomorrow. |
Thumper74
| Posted on Wednesday, September 25, 2013 - 10:47 pm: |
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We're taking his ashes to the family plot next weekend. It's near where the WV Buell Rally was. We got to visit his best friend that weekend. I'll be riding the bike down there. It won't be cherry red by then, but it's fine. Today was rough, a friend and I went to the house mom and dad just bought to do some work on it. My two year old niece walked around the house, looking for papaw. That was the roughest. I also had to see the bathroom where my brother in law found him. He'd happy that we were working on the house, rather than moping around. |
Tootal
| Posted on Saturday, September 28, 2013 - 09:26 am: |
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Really sorry to hear that James. It was an honor to meet him at the rally. I was glad you guys were spending time together since I've been in your situation and you will cherish those memories in the future! |
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