Posted on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 - 09:33 pm:
Go! I got a desk job right after CarQuest and while it's a good company, the desk part sucks. Going back to a dealership much closer to home. I also have some other life changing things going on.
If you can go and break even, I'd do it. I'm only 28, but my dad is 64. While I lived in Columbus, I was busy chasing girls and money. I didn't make time to see him in the hospital after a quadruple bypass 9 years ago. It still bothers me and I live 1/4 mile away now.
Posted on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 - 09:44 pm:
Mark, I know how you feel. I wished I would have moved to Seattle Wa. 25 years ago. I would have been in a perfect place now.
I am having the same dilemma again. The company I am working for is wanting to send a few of us to Toulouse France soon. I don't know that the opportunity will be as good Seattle. But I still might jump on it. I have 3 boys, 2 in High School 1 in Grade School.
No opportunity like the present. If you keep thinking about it, all it will be is a thought and then a regret. You don't have to test the waters and you know the place and what it is like.
Posted on Wednesday, September 12, 2012 - 10:21 pm:
If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
Also, my Mom helped a local hospital recruit doctors to a small town. How did they pick the ones to recruit? They looked at the town the Dr's wife grew up in.
A Dr. will move "anywhere" when graduated... but within 10 years typically lives in the same size town that his wife grew up in.
(Not trying to be chauvinist, plenty of great female MD's, just speaking to the topic at hand).
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 01:16 am:
Houses cost quite a bit to build. Im in the process right now and I can say that we will most likely double what we thought we would spend. You may be better with math than me, but as a warning, just be careful with that.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 04:42 am:
I don't know of anybody who, when lying on their deathbed ever said, "I wish I had gone to work instead of taking the time to enjoy life." Listen to your heart.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 07:21 am:
Do you like where you live? I sounds like work will still be work so IMO you have a sincere choice to make. It's a nice problem to have as far as problems go but not so cut and dry I think.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 07:52 am:
Building the house could be a nightmare... and attempting to have control from C-bus would be a little more than stressful.
My wife and I are looking at house plans. Our current house is WAY to big for 2 people... but finding where to cut sq ft is somewhat a pain in the arse
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 08:17 am:
Don't you wanna be sitting on a porch in the morning sunrise with your dogs and wife by your side... drinking your coffee... can you hear the sound of motorcycles echoing through the valley?? Vrooom Vroom.......
OOPS!!!! I forgot!! In 10+ years they will have electric motors with an irritating whining sound....
but seriously... I would think long term... where you think you might want to be in 10+ years.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 08:39 am:
I have had a rethink lately. I went to Alaska and did nothing for a week. When I returned, My employer had changed my work schedule to four ten hour days and three days off. People around me keep asking why I won't work the three days I'm off. I have come to the realization that I will only get so many three day weekends in my lifetime. I'm collecting all I can. So, I bought 2 kayaks and my teen age son spends time with me. Not trying to tell you what to do. I'd move.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 09:04 am:
get on your bad motorscooter and ride!
if the wife says it's do-able, you have the hard part done. well, there's the job thing, but trust me, anyone who works as much as you do will land on their feet.
and don't think of it as your wife moving away from her family, think of it as moving to a great place for her family to visit.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 02:21 pm:
Don't take this as a rip on the south....have you looked into a prefab, modular or doublewide? Might be worth it. I would think the cost would be less than a stick built as well
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 02:35 pm:
Prefab is on my brain. But I do sell building materials for a living... so I can save a good bit on just about all the finish products. Its the labor and quality of labor that would stress me.
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 06:01 pm:
Wolf, 4 words: fee based financial advisor.
Find a "fee based" financial advisor. Let them crunch the numbers. Then you'll know if there is success or not so much.
5 years ago retirement was but a fond dream. Today: I'm liv'n the dream... I know you're not talking retirement but you are a major change to your life.
Also, consult a tax or real estate attorney before your father "gives" you land. He could be responsible for gift taxes...
Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012 - 10:12 pm:
Mark - I've been through my share of changes the last few years, as you know. Not the least of which being the purchase of the "garage-mahal"...oh, and a house that went with it for me to be in
Crunch numbers. Figure worst-case, how long could you go on zero income before running out. Query the office about "what if I relocated...is there enough work in the region?". Make a smart choice. I'm in the middle of something similar to that concerning work - if I take the step, will the business turn a profit before, or after, I run out of money?
That said...don't pass up an opportunity just because of money. I've been through changes...but I've also been dead. It changes your perspective. Work is a necessary evil...but it should not run your life. It will try, but don't let it. Do what you love, love what you do...and just build an extra wing you can seal off (and not maintain when vacant) for the in-laws to come visit
My situation still feels alien sometimes...but then I sit in my back yard, look down the valley and watch the sun set and the lights come on...scrub my 17 year old dog's head and toss a ball for my psycho-pug while one-eye mutt chases her around...and it's OK again.
Mark, we got a lovely card and a handwritten thank you note from Judy in the mail yesterday. Bless her heart. One of these days we've got to get up there and meet her.
I have a few - I took the safe and civil way out of a couple of situations - where on second thought - the other guy would be better dead.
Prison seems to be the new preferred university for training and political advancement for the current admin - it could have been a resume builder.
And I suppose had the coin I flipped on Languages ended up Chinese rather than Russian - well; who knew in 87 where the Soviets, Americans, and Chinese would be 25 years later. oh well.
Posted on Saturday, September 15, 2012 - 09:49 am:
What you talking bout City?
any who... did a little surveying on Friday and my wallet squealed. The driveway needed would cost more to put in than the house would cost to build. The amount of earth work would be unreal.
I was hanging off the fence getting ready to drop and run.... but now, I'm back on top trying to figure out how to make it all work.
Posted on Saturday, September 15, 2012 - 12:41 pm:
Mark.
Killer decision. Here's my take on it.
If you don't love your current situation, then you owe it to yourself to try a new one. A big factor is that the wife already is giving you the green light; knowing she will be away from her family (2.5 hours aint bad though), sounds like something she is willing to accept.
Grab the wife and come up to my place sometime. I'll grill or something. I've got 1200 square feet and am perfectly comfortable, in fact, I have a spare bedroom that isn't used for anything, so that's an excess 150 sf or so. You can never have too much storage though; a pole barn is in the plans I hope!
If it were me, I'd go for it. Find a way. Lose some sleep. And make the jump!
