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     Whatever |
when a friend just "poof" dissapears from my life. and not someone insignificant mind you... someone I have known for 15 years who should be able to be honest... had this happen before, but, it always kinda leaves you wondering...  | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Sorry to hear it. People are fluid. Sometimes they change into people you don't know or want to know. Always hurts when that happens. Lost a friend lately because he became some I didn't know (or want to). I hope he comes back. Probably won't. | ||
| Whatever |
Well sometimes no explanation is needed... I guess I am on the other end of this one today too... someone I have not really wanted to be associated with keeps calling... It is more humane to leave it alone than tell her... "hey, I just don't like you anymore"... | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Yep. I have a childhood friend like that. I love him, but we just don't have ANYTHING in common anymore. Tough to say "man, I just got nothin' for you". | ||
| Tepiddeath |
Being on both ends of it, I can only speak from my own experience... when I was getting deeper into drugs I had little time for even my family, let alone friends who weren't doing what I was doing. Now that I am clean I have had some "friends" that have "mysteriously drifted away". Maybe your friend is just going through something. Try to be there without questions if/when your friend reaches out to you. Just my experience/advice, do with it what you want. Hope it helps! | ||
| Whisperstealth |
+1 Tepiddeath Great advice! Thanks for sharing your experience, strength, and hope! Been down the same road. 12/25/07 | ||
| Whisperstealth |
Whatever, A friend of mine showed this to me. It didn't make everything great, or cozy. I still felt loss, but it did help. I think of it from time to time, and helps me to understand a little bit more. Wish you love, peace, and joy. People come into your life for a reason, a season,or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a God-send, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvienent time, this person will do or say something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force us to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fullfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use into all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season, or a lifetime. (Thanks Destiny  | ||
| Firebolt32 |
I got a buddy who did this to me and my other guys. We hung out for years...getting in trouble together, keepin each other out of trouble. One day I called to see if he wanted to ride. I went by the house and everything was GONE. He just up and left. He never even told his girl of 7 yrs. That was about 3 years ago and to this day no one has a clue as to where he is. | ||
| Whatever |
With "B", I know what the issues are. I have known him long enough to know that me standing up and asserting myself has freaked him out. Add into that the fact that since we have re-connected and started hanging out in the last six months (we lost touch for years for various reasons) there has been some kind of sexual attraction there that neither of us has been willing to address and/ or act on. Add to it that my ex-boyfriend that died years ago was best friends with him and a recent death of a mutual friend has happened, and not a good, honorable death but a complicated, messy and senseless death... and I think he is just having a hard time dealing with his own feelings. Men are strange that way... they tend to clam up and shut down when they are having intense feelings... women tend to open up and reach out... I know enough now to just walk away... maybe we will become close again and maybe we won't. Either way, I care about him a great deal... that will never change. I can let it go... and be ok with the fact that I have to let it go... I am moving on in a way that is just absolutely fantastic... looking forward to my future. My other friend... let me call her "A"... I have no energy for... I had a rough week at work and skipped the memorial service yesterday, because two friends have died recently... and I just didn't have the energy for it... I slept 13 hours Thursday night and 12 hours Friday night and 11 hours last night... "A" has lost a lot of friends because she is completley self-centered and self-absorbed and she sucks the life out of people... granted, she has been through a lot of crap in the last year... but a lot of people have walked away from her because she is so needy... I wanted to walk away beginning six months ago... but several significant people in her life have walked away and I just could not do it to her at the time... She has moved away to another part of the country... and I thought, ah, ok... she will get a new life and leave me alone... but no, I have two or three calls a week... and, like I said, I have no energy right now. +1 on the reason, season, lifetime reading. I KNOW THAT! I just need a reminder sometimes. I think I will print it up and post it on my fridge so I keep it in mind. Relationships (of any kind) are messy. Now, if I can get my boss to quit riding my ass this next week... and he hasn't been riding my ass for the first six months, then life will be grand. Then I will have a party at my house.  (Message edited by Whatever on August 22, 2010) | ||
| Glitch |
Add into that the fact that since we have re-connected and started hanging out in the last six months (we lost touch for years for various reasons) there has been some kind of sexual attraction there that neither of us has been willing to address and/ or act on. The kiss of death to a lot of friendships I've seen. Men are strange that way... they tend to clam up and shut down when they are having intense feelings... women tend to open up and reach out... Unless of course it's the other way round, then it's the opposite. Experience tells me so. "A" has lost a lot of friends because she is completley self-centered and self-absorbed and she sucks the life out of people... granted, she has been through a lot of crap in the last year... but a lot of people have walked away from here because she is so needy... I know an "A", there seems to be no hope for her at the present, she has burned damn near every bridge. I have pity for her, but not much else... With regards to disappearing friends, I know what you mean. Having been disappeared from and having disappeared myself, it usually means one or both people are going through changes of some sort. No real fault of either, just the human condition. You'll figure it out, and you'll land on your feet, you're a strong intelligent woman, I'd be honored to be your friend, and won't disappear as long as things don't get weird.  | ||
| Glitch |
Oh yeah, one more thing... Party at Char's!!! | ||
| Whatever |
Hee hee...  | ||
| Glitch |
Kumbayaa during BuellToberFest, now there's something that hasn't happened yet.  | ||
| Whatever |
Glitch, what is the deal with cabin rooms or any other type of room? Are you just left with camping spaces... don't think I can drag all my gear down ther on the X... the M2, yes, but the M2 is in dis-repair... I am gonna pm my cell # or just pm me yours please. | ||
| Glitch |
I'll give you a call later on, can't right now. With regards to rooming, there are people that are going in on a big cabin or two. To get a cabin of your own though will be tough. They're pretty much already reserved. Kristi (Ulywife) has rented what they call C3central, get in touch with her to see if there's any room left. There may be room at T.W.O. but you'll need to call now http://www.twowheelsonly.com/ | ||
| Whatever |
Kewl... I sent Kristi my cell# too... may need my own space with all the hooliganisms planned...  Seems roughly 24 hours without any alone time and my head implodes... | ||
| Glitch |
Alone time is plentiful in the hills. All you have to do is ride around the block. Should take you about an hour or so  Sorry I missed you last night, we went riding as soon as the heat got below 90o. Didn't get back until late. | ||
| Whatever |
That map looks delicious... today at work was insane... forgot to check my vaca time... maybe tomorrow... | ||
| Fahren |
Holy squiggly twisties, Batman!!!! Looks like some wildness in the hills! | ||
| Glitch |
180 Wolf Pen Gap is my favorite! http://www.badweatherbikers.com/buell/messages/37/ 251514.html?1175565596 The Wolf makes the Dragon squeal like a little girl... | ||
| Whatever |
Thread successfully hijacked... dood now I can't feel so soooory for myself... lol...  | ||
| Danger_dave |
Good - because it never ceases to amaze me that people think I care. :-P | ||
| Danger_dave |
That was a Don Rickles gag btw. He used the same material for 40 years. Legend http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50RsOGOYawA | ||
| Whatever |
Thanks Dave... now I feel all cold and fuzzy... | ||
| Ratbuell |
Char - I have enough room on the Uly, I can bring a spare tent for ya if you need it. If I wear the same clothes every day, I can bring a spare sleeping bag too, and just live out of the topcase I feel for ya, though. Been down a similar road, many times. Sometimes they come back...sometimes they don't. All you can do in either case is be honest to a fault, see what happens, and take comfort in the fact that you were as honest as possible. And of course, party your a$$ off with friends whenever possible | ||
| Britchri10 |
Glitch: Did you ever consider superimposing the Nordfelte @ the Nurburgring over the top of that map? (Above) Just a thought. The circuit in Germany is reputed to have 147 corners. Chris C | ||
| Cityxslicker |
done it a couple of times, change location, change names, drop contact, disappear. Its cathartic. Its about due again. The official theme song | ||
| Rainman |
What kind of bass is Tina playing? Is that an old Kay? | ||
| 86129squids |
"Same as it ever was Same as it ever was..." Come on down in October, Char- I'm planning a run from home (Mur-vil TN) down to Suches tomorrow with a couple of buddies... gotta have lunch with GT and Britt. Plus, you REALLY can't beat the roads in my backyard... As far as losing friends to time or circumstance... "Only the hand that erases can write the true thing." Meister Eckhart See the Obscure Music Thread for some song lyrics I posted yesterday. Good ear and mind candy. | ||
| Whatever |
I can do ELEVEN days in October, but I have to come down the week before or the week after Suches.... grrrrrreat... I am going to figure this one out... I might even trailer the bike (gasp) down to Nashville... WHY... because I HATE being cold... we will see soon... |
