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Rasmonis
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 11:14 am: | 
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I had this huge response and lost it thanks to Google Earth!
It basically went something like:
I'm pissed off at all of this for a whole bunch of reasons I don't care to write about right now.
Hooray for Randie and Rob, may the have a wonderful freakin' life together, may they stay out of crack houses and jail. - Whatever...
Actually it went nothing like that, I just needed to get that off my chest.
Thanks all,
-Ras |
Angelwild327
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 11:57 am: |
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Ras,
Children are more like their parents than, many times, either side likes to admit. While her misguided heart may be leading her right now, her brain will eventually take over and common sense will prevail. She has your lessons packed away in her brain and she'll inevitably resort to them at some point in time. There is no reason to go back and dwell on what you might have done differently, because that is unchangeable.. what you have to keep faith in, is that your positive and common sense teachings are truly inside of her and she will, granted it may not be tomorrow, come to her senses and make better decisions.
We all venture out at some point in time, albeit earlier than you would have hoped, it was just her time, now. No matter what happens, never stop loving her, always leave your hearts and your door open to her, and she will return, if not physically, then in her heart and mind. Have no doubt that you are on her mind, every single day, as she is in yours. Being a teenager and in your early twenties, in this day and age, is a struggle...a huge and painful, at times, struggle...but you will always be her family and she knows that. I guarantee she misses you and realizes that her life wasn't as bad as she may have believed it was, and I'm betting she is ridiculously afraid of rejection and anger that might be facing her upon her return (at least in her mind).
Anyhow, keep your thoughts positive, remember everyone ventures out sooner or later and you've taught her well...HUGS!!! |
Bcordb3
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 03:10 pm: |
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Ras,
If you want to vent, go ahead. That what we are here for, to listen, help, and not to pass judgement.
Again, I think the whole board is with you, and praying for your family.
Know one can even imagine what you and your wife are going through.
(Message edited by bcordb3 on September 12, 2006) |
Glitch
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 05:58 pm: |
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Ramon-Go ahead and get it all out.
No better place than here.
I have no words of comfort, I'm sorry to say.
I can say this though.
You, my friend, are not alone.
My oldest son left two summers ago.
He was just over 16.
I've not heard from him since.
He's 18 now. |
Jon
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 12, 2006 - 10:05 pm: |
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Rasmonis,
The biblical prodigal son scenario was likely a very long event in time. Don't give up...ever. Pray as a habit.
I have friend who just had his son repent and come home. I was a hellion long ago who broke my dad's heart and left the house as a minor. With God all things are possible. |
Ulywife
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 13, 2006 - 12:04 am: |
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Glitch - I had no idea.
My heart breaks for both of you and your families. We will continue to pray for both children's safety. God is watching over them even when we as parents can't. Sometimes faith is the only thing we have to hold onto, so hold it close and don't lose sight of it. |
Oldog
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 13, 2006 - 08:33 pm: |
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What Jon said.......}
With GOD all things are possible |
Wardan123
| | Posted on Sunday, September 17, 2006 - 12:43 pm: |
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Any news? Still hoping for a positive turn for all involved... |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Sunday, September 17, 2006 - 09:04 pm: |
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No good news. We haven't heard a thing. A new detective was assigned our case and my initial impression is that he doesn't appear too motivated to do anything.
We're in the process of hopefully getting a warrant for Randie. THis might get things moving.
-Ras |
Aka_dark_lord
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 07:15 am: |
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Ramon,
I have just read this chilling thread, and I wish your family the very best, and will be praying for you along with my Church. I say chilling because looking through your eyes and experience I can vary well see the making of a new thread written by me say in 7 years. My daughter (9) has suddenly took on a most rebellious attitude which is aimed mostly against her mother. But she has mentioned her desire to leave and move out and how she can't wait till she turns 18. This I thought was just anger being vented, and coming from a 9 yr old I wasn't taking it too seriously, but now I am thinking I will let a professional counselor make that unbiased judgement call. She has everything she needs, and a fair amount of what she wants but as not to spoil her. We provide for her, give her plenty of love and attention try to encourage friends, and team activities. But I do not understand where her anger comes from. Both my wife and I have found God late in life (last couple weeks), so hopefully our answer will be in his glory and we can turn this runaway train around. Not trying to hijack your thread but this is the most sincere way I can say that you have possibly given me the 20/20 hindsight that most people never get.
You will be in our prayers.
Just another thought. Knowing how rebellious kids are, you probably should not try to force any issues where she feels she is forced to come home on anything but her terms. If she was too know that you were involved in his warrant or went in and dragged her out. It could lead to driving a big wedge between you and her. Just a thought
also Ramon (chilling) |
Jersey_thunder
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 06:11 pm: |
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With GOD all things are possible..AMEN
JT |
Shea
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 07:48 pm: |
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I too just read this thread. if it makes you feel better, I will copy the plate down and let my wife know too. We live in York Pa and if we see this vehicle, we will phone the police. I know the odds are crazy, but I cannot imagine how helpless you feel and just knowing people are atleast looking would make me feel so much better. |
Shea
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 - 07:53 pm: |
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BTW, the description you gave of him sounds like he is a real winner. I am just picturing some punk kid with that thin looking peach fuzz mustache. |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 11:50 am: |
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Ramon (Weird-you're only the second Ramon I've "met" - family excluded),
Every situation is different even though there may be striking similarities. What happened to us does not necessarily mean that your outcome will be the same. Having insight and going with your intuition is key, act now, do not hesitate like I did. Do not be afraid to admit that your family could use external assistance - if that is your case.
While my spirituality is sometimes questionable, I pick up the Bible every now and then. Soon after reading Judges (one of the most gruesome books in the Bible) I decided to check out Joshua, where I found this one verse I like and think of when I'm feeling particularly beat up.
Context: Moses just died, and God tells Joshua (back in the day when God used to talk to people directly) he's next in line to whoop serious Caananite butt and lead the Israelites to their promised land.
Jos 1:9 "...be strong, be confident and do not be afraid for I, your Lord God, am always with you...".
- there are plenty of variations of this verse.
It's always good to know God's got your back...and Joshua went on to whoop plenty o' butt.
I read that just before meeting a bunch of you @ Nick&Sammie's last year. Anyway, I've been thinking about that verse often lately, of my fellow brethren here on the Badweb (Glitch in particular-we've gotta chat one day) and of how helpful 'yall have been for us - practically strangers.
It's amazing how a symbol, be it a sentence, image or thought, can be so comforting, or be powerful enough to motivate a person or people to do wonders (or commit atrocities depending on the intended goal of that person or people). It is what keeps us going on despite all the BS we have to deal with on a daily basis. Sh!t we've got it easy in comparison to the folks that lived pre-industrial revolution.
Regardless of what happens, we will be able to look back and know that there are good people here and even though things turned out the way they did, we were not alone which was/is very comforting.
I know I'm all over the place - but I'm not crazy - really.  
Thanks,
-Ras
(Message edited by Rasmonis on September 20, 2006) |
Glitch
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 12:07 pm: |
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(Glitch in particular-we've gotta chat one day)
Looking forward to it my friend. |
Ulywife
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 01:43 pm: |
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I know I'm all over the place - but I'm not crazy - really.
No, you're a parent! I think about your family each day. Tomorrow is another day and until Randie comes home, we'll continue to pray for her safety and well-being.
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Rasmonis
| | Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 01:58 pm: |
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Yeah, it'll be a month already this Friday.
I still don't believe it. |
Tgroghan
| | Posted on Friday, September 22, 2006 - 08:00 am: |
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One of the first verses I put to memory was
this passage, written by Solomon from Proverbs 3:5-7:
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart.
Do not depend on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways remember him.
Then he will make your paths smooth and straight.
7 Don't be wise in your own eyes.
Have respect for the Lord and avoid evil.
As you know, the Old Testament is a great example for the people of God, and the New Testament is even more powerful for His church (body of believers) today. |
Aka_dark_lord
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 02:04 am: |
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Ras,
You are completely right, there are thousands of crossroads ahead, each with their own journey, for better or worse.
We are still praying for you brother.
Ramon |
Buellgirlie
| | Posted on Sunday, September 24, 2006 - 06:59 pm: |
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still thinkin' of your family and hoping for randie's safety.
D |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Monday, September 25, 2006 - 09:57 am: |
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Thanks,
I'm waiting for some sort of "forgetfulness" but it's just not happening.
'yall don't understand, I was sure something would have happened by now, not hearing anything at all just sux.
-Ras |
Bigdaddy
| | Posted on Monday, September 25, 2006 - 10:04 am: |
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Ras,
We're still praying for your family!
Tgroghan, I like the way you think  Right on.
G2 |
Angelwild327
| | Posted on Monday, September 25, 2006 - 01:43 pm: |
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I had a friend who's 15 year old son left home, "for no apparent reason". He was gone for about 4 or so months...they had a decent relationship, she'd been a single mother since she was 16. Although the situation is completely different from yours, he was eventually picked up for trying to shoplift a candybar.
He went back home, and in the end, she found out he left because he got a girl pregnant and was scared. It all turned out well, their relationship has grown and I'm sure he got several life lessons to boot.
There is always hope...so keep your head up.. |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 10:05 pm: |
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Randie called her sister today.
SHe only said that she had a roof over her head and that she is being fed then Rob told her to get off the phone.
Good news we guess. I only wish she had called us instead.
-Ras |
Blake
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 02:32 am: |
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Originating phone number was hidden? |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 07:49 pm: |
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Yes, they block it.
I think they plan on showing up after her birthday in January.
Whatever... |
Rasmonis
| | Posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 - 07:51 pm: |
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She has no idea what effects her actions has caused not only her immediate & extended family. |
Naustin
| | Posted on Monday, October 02, 2006 - 10:04 am: |
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At the risk of causing you unnecessary grief, (and I am sure you have already considered the possibility) while she may have left with him willingly in a moment of poor judgement, are the police sure that he isn't now holding her prisoner? |
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