| Author | Message | ||
     Humboldtblast |
i have to say this bike is the best medicine for a broken heart. My x and i were together for 5 and a half years..... its been hard, but the bike has helped me out tremendously, it never will cheat on me!!!!!! Best of all i still have that sh** eating grin on my face each time i get on... thanks buell!!! | ||
| Djkaplan |
You want to hear something funny? That's the real reason I got my Buell in 2000. I was going through the wringer with a fairly difficult break-up. One day, I just called the closest Buell dealer and told them I was coming. I spent a lot of hours in the saddle that summer. The hurt eventually went away (it always does) and I got a killer motorcycle out of the deal. I win. | ||
| Percyco |
My wife of 14 years and girlfriend of 7 years before that, decided to have an affair with one of her patients at our local VA Center. I took her to the cleaners for everything including our daughter. I ended up with a younger girlfriend that bought a Buell Blast. And I added a XB9S to my collection as a victory gift to myself (already had a H-D). Time is the best medicine but a dose of V-twin Buell fun sure as hell didnt hurt me ! Good Luck and keep yer chin up ....  | ||
| Moboy516 |
Yep, I bought a Blast two weeks after my divorce was over. Three months later, I traded it in on the XB9R. It got me through a lot of tough days. Got married to a younger, gorgeous Romanian girl last month, but the bike gets to stay too. | ||
| Teddagreek |
Women cheat just as much as guys, don't be fooled.. If some one cheats on you tell them "hit the bricks and get to stepping"... Plain and simple My EX cheated on me.. After soiling my wild oats for couple years and healing. I've ended up in the best relationship I had ever been in. Years later we got married. We now have a 10month old boy and are expecting again in july... Honestly I've never been happier.. Good Luck... | ||
| Johnnylunchbox |
We live and learn. Pain is a part of life unfortunately. At the risk of sounding Hallmarkesque, everything happens for a reason, which will become evident sooner or later. There is too much going on with life to get mired in the mud pit with arseholes. Riding is the best therapy, hands down. | ||
| Brad_buell |
My divorce was just finalized. The paperwork went through and now I'm a free Man!!! It was expensive.....but worth it! I got to keep my Lightning, even though I was afraid that I might lose it. But now I can finally add a Firebolt to my collection. Hey Daves....you hear that.....I'm looking for an '07 Firebolt This Spring! | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
After soiling my wild oats for couple years   Is that like "sharting"? | ||
| Kdan |
 I got my Blast 2 months after stepping out of a spiraling 18 year marriage. Got the XB9S when I realized I was serious and haven't looked back. Life's too short to dance with fat chicks with bad attitudes. | ||
| Aldaytona |
The best way to get rid of one demon is with another.......................... | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Uhhhhh? I think that's replace one addiction with another not demon. Unless you want:  "We are Legion!" Then again, if your demon pukes all over herself often, maybe trading for another isn't such a bad idea.  | ||
| Tx05xb12s |
Yeah we need to have a little chat about hygiene with that one. And I do believe the replace one demon with another idea definitely works. I used to party quite a bit, drank to intoxication several nights a week with friends, etc. Now that I ride, I seldom drink at all because I want to be able to ride my bike. I tried riding once after just one beer and I could tell it affected my abilities. That cured that problem! Now if I could just stop bumping the rev limiter... (-: | ||
| Mortarmanmike120 |
Congrats Man, For the first two years after my divorce I hit the gym. Now I ride a buell. Both have made me really appreciate being single. Both have also gotten me laid on more then a few occasions. Enjoy your bike and enjoy bachelorhood. FB- have I told you today that you are a strange, silly man? | ||
| Daves |
Brad, Glad it is over for you. Just let me know when you are ready for the bike. I've been through one divorce. She cheated on me so she had to go. Cost me a bunch of money but it was worth it. A few years of being a dumba$$, partying too much and hanging out with skanks. Then I found Kandie. I knew right away she was the one for me. Kandie has really turned my life around for the better. She is, by far, the best thing to ever happen to me! I am a very lucky man. Keep your chin up and find the right one for you. | ||
| Glitch |
From a broken heart, to the normal every day stress, to the just plain ol' got to get outta Dodge feeling, there's no better therapy than to go out and ride. Going out for a ride always helps clear the mind. Ride Safe | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
I've always thought of the bike as a source of mental distillation. It's hard to think about anything else when you are pushing hard through a turn looking for the perfect line. There's just not enough processing capacity to do that and think about anything else. Just don't do slab. EVER! Too much time alone inside your lid.  | ||
| Humboldtblast |
yep, its time to relearn the game!!! This is my last semester at Humboldt State University so i will be on the prowl...but a bit shy because of it...i have so many questions for her but she wont anwser them!!! agh... Thanks for all your support, its good to know that your bros are with ya  | ||
| Metalstorm |
Q: why is divorce so expensive? A: because it's worth it. | ||
| Swordsman |
Yeah, general rule of thumb: if they're willing to cheat, they don't deserve you. Doesn't matter how bad things may have been that lead up to the event. In a real relationship, there should be discussion about those problems, and then if things can't be resolved, split. But cheating? No way. No second chances, either... if they can pull the stunt once, they can do it again. Don't ask questions! Blow off that biznitch and have yourself a blast! If you're asking her questions like, "What did I do wrong?", the answer is: nothing. You can't MAKE someone to cheat. You may have made them unhappy, but again, that should lead to discussion. Cheating is a decision they make all on their own, and you are certainly not responsible for that. Dunno if that's the case, but that was MY question when it happened to me. Cut it clean, and make sure she knows she's not worth your time. Been there, done that, lesson learned. Did I mention sexy, sexy bikes are great confidence boosters?  Good luck with stuff! We've all got yer' back! ~SM | ||
| Xl1200r |
Wow - I found the opposite to be true...sort of... I'm 23, and back in April my girl of 7 years (and fiance) broke things off out of the blue. I tried riding my Sportster, but my head wasn't in the right place for it and it wasn't a safe situation. Slowly. things got better. A month after, I took all the cash I had saved for the wedding and blew it on a brand new Cobalt SS Supercharged. I love that car. The two of us went our seperate ways for a while, but nothing really seemed right. We both had one relationship, and we both were the ones to break them off. Eventually, she contacted me - I had convinced myself for long that I didn't want her back, but my heart said otherwise. We're currently working on things, and it looks like we'll be getting back together, though you can imagine I'm a bit reserved about it still... So, as a celebration of all of this, I bought my Buell. 2007 XB12R. Like I said, the opposite as far as the bike is concerned. | ||
| Wolf102 |
my s2 is keeping me and my wife together.when ever she starts her crap the bikes force exhaust takes care of that.the other night i think my wife thought it was to cold for me to take the s2 out(it was about 20 plus wind chill and night time)so she started her crap. i put on ever peace of clothing and took the bike out. i froze my balls of but it was great. i love my bike | ||
| 2k4xb12 |
Mark, Listen to your heart. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. If a woman (or a man for that matter) cheats once, they'll probably do it again -- especially if they got away with it. Just because you caught her doesn't mean it was the first time it happened -- only the first time she was caught. I made that mistake with my ex -- found out she had cheated and trusted her that it was the first time and would never happen again. Not too long afterwards, and after lots of clues, I finally caught her cheating with another guy. I booted her out and filed. It was a long process (5 years), and during that time, I found out about several instances of her cheating on her boyfriend (the one I caught her with). A zebra doesn't change it's stripes. If it happened once, it'll probably happen again. BE CAREFUL! Steve. | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Ever notice how cheat and chump have the same number of letters? My wife cheated once while we were dating. It was her one and only chance. I calmly explained that any other infractions would result in immediate and irreversible removal of her from my planet. I have been ever vigilant since then. I wonder if I made the right decision even today. Chump may be me. | ||
| Xl1200r |
Here's my theory on cheating - I did it once when I was young, like 16. It was fun while it happened, but I was absolutely crazy about the girl I was with, and I cried the whole way home (I'm man enough to admit that). I buried that inside me until my so-called best friend leaked to the girl I was with. That was one of the toughest times in my life. Another story, when I went away to school, the same girl I was with kissed another guy, and had a reaction similar to mine, only she had the backbone to tell me about me it. For both of us, that was the first time, and most likely the last. Some people just have too much heart to do it. It hurts a ton, regardless of which side of the fence you're on. So, in short, just because they did it once, doesn't mean they'll do it again. Now, if they do it twice, that's another story. | ||
| Doerman |
This brings to mind a quote from the movie "Oh Brother where art Thou" "women, the instrument of torture sent to bedevil the days of man" Asbjorn | ||
| Jxb |
This is therapy to me just reading about everyone else's experience. I am currently going through a divorce after 20 years of marriage in which my wife cheated on me too. I agree a ride on my XB is one of the best therapies available. I tell my friends that refilling the tank is like refilling a prescription. No matter my mood, pressing the starter button is sure to bring an instant smile... | ||
| Hkwan |
...well, at least you guys have your buell to jump on... I am in Shanghai and after reading this thread I wish I am at home in CA (due in about another 10 days) riding. Nothing about cheating.. .just lost my 2 relationship(s)within 6 months. | ||
| 2k4xb12 |
Mark, There's something to your theory, but one thing you have to keep in mind is that in your story, the one thing you and your girl had in common is that you were both young. I think it's safe to say that the rest of the people depicted in this thread have all grown up and are able to make cognitive decisions and know right from wrong. They should have established morals that might only be developing as a teenager or young adult. These are people who made a decision to take a chance -- to throw the dice and risk it all. I stand by my opinion that after the first time, there will likely be a second, and so on... | ||
| Jxb |
I agree completely with Steve. In my case I never knew about the 1rst time which was a couple of years ago. I learned of the most recent and then found out about the past. I'll always wonder what else do I not know. It is a very risky decision when someone makes that choice. It is a risk that the person may loose all trust and respect not only from their spouse but also all of their existing friends. | ||
| Slaughter |
It was her one and only chance. I calmly explained that any other infractions would result in immediate and irreversible removal of her from my planet. I have been ever vigilant since then. I wonder if I made the right decision even today. How sweet - death threats holding the relationship together? Do you wonder if SHE made the right decision? (Message edited by slaughter on December 24, 2006) | ||
| Humboldtblast |
what really hurts is she took the down payment on her car and the deposit on her apartment that i gave her while she was "Fishing" with the other new teacher and the next door neighbor. When she got her teaching job....basically i was old news in her new world...You guys are 100%right...I cant trust her!!! Never would of thought she would do this....HA what a suprise.....NOT WORTH MY TIME...thanks for waking me up!!! a lesson learned | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
Slaughter, No death threats. "Removal from my planet" merely means it would be as though she didn't exist. I was very calm. I don't threaten. She either chooses to be with me or she doesn't. I love her but I refuse to look over my shoulder. Jealousy is a complete waste of time. I'd rather be alone than to live with someone who cheats. | ||
| Jxb |
Amen to that, Ft_bstrd. I'm not through the healing part yet with my situation and probably won't be until things are finalized. At this point I can think of a lot of bad things but have no intentions of ever actually carry through on anything of them. I still care about her but in a much different way now. Life is too short to deal with someone who cheats. I finally realized that it is a waste of time to care about someone who no longer has feelings for me. Not only is Jealousy a complete waste of time it is also the opposite of trust. It is important that a quality relationship be built on trust. | ||
| Ulywife |
It is important that a quality relationship be built on trust. Takes time to build trust and a drop of a hat to loose it. My theory is that it's better to be alone and happy than with someone and be miserable. Take some time to yourself, enjoy life, your friends and family and ride often. There will be someone else in your future that will love and appreciate you. | ||
| Fastfxrs |
Motorcycles are not just a good medicine to help get through a break up, they are a great tool for staying happy in a marriage. I did'nt say they are the secret to a happy marriage but its helped keep me happy in mine for the past 14 1/2 years. When times were tough and I volunteered to sell the bike, my wife stopped me and said,"that would be like selling one of your arms." Man I love her! Tim | ||
| Hkwan |
Gosh, so many meaningful messages in this thread... I can sure use them, though, cheating doesn't directly apply to my situation but I sure can take some of the messages to heart. If someone edit out that nasty pic out of this thread then this tread would be perfect.. | ||
| Slaughter |
Jeremy, Sorry about the misunderstanding there Totally agree, with the trust gone, you aren't left with much. Gotchya. | ||
| Ft_bstrd |
No problem. Originally, it sounded a lot harsher than I had intended. I think we all have an obligation on our parts to create an environment where our SO wants to be with us, to seek out what is beneficial for both, and to love us unconditionally. First we must verify that WE are meeting this environmental requirement. Next we must determine if THEY are living up to that environmental requirement. If neither are, it's all going to crater quickly. If only one is, it's all going to crater eventually one way or another. If both are, the probability for long term success is high. | ||
| Liquorwhere |
Congratulations man! I have been happily divorced for over ten years and while many believe there is the one for them, I believe there are many. The bikes are the best of wives, they will always be there for you and give you what you want without asking for more. Women will come and go but as long as you are true to your passions in life you will be happy, alone or otherwise. Relationships are great for most people, really they are and you may find a perfect one for you, until then, ride like hell. |
